Kick, You have gotten a lot of good responses. Your h is not going to change over night. He is angry and no matter what you do it will make him angrier. He does not hate you he hates himself. He needs to make you out to be the bad guy to justify his behaviour. Like you have been told by others on this board, take the focus off of your h and put it onto yourself. You cannot do anything about your h's mlc. You need to let him go. He has a long journey ahead of him and you are not invited. You are on your own journey so focus on making the changes for yourself. This is not about your h or even saving your m. Right now it has to be about you or you will go crazy.
Please listen to all of these people on here. Angry mlcers are among the most difficult to live with. If you do not detach you will go crazy. Do not take anything he says personally.
