Lost, confused and fighting for my marriage

[Hopeful728]

I just read your post...I think it would be really hard to be separated, but still living in the same house. We tried that for a month and the my H decided he needed time alone to think. He thought he needed to be away from me to see if it made him miss me at all. It's been 8 weeks with no change, so I guess he's not really missing me or our comfortable home. He's still sleeping on a buddy's couch in the basement. I thought he would have gotten tired of that by now.

I get so many mixed messages from him, it leaves me spinning in a circle. We have some really positive interactions and then he still says he's leaning towards divorce. It's very confusing!

Last night he came over for a few hours and it went great! He came over to talk about attending Retrouvaille with me, which I had asked him to do the last time we talked. He said he doesn't want to go, because it sounds too religious to him. The info he found on it (and read to me) did seem that way, so I agree that it is not what we are looking for. I asked him if he would go if I could find something else that wasn't religious based and he said "yeah, probably." So now the mission is on!