I think it's safe to say that if she ever gets her act together, she knows where to find you.
I would call that leaving the door open just a crack.
But you sure as heck don't want to spend your precious time continually looking back to see if anyone is there.
I'm sorry for the end of your marriage, and I'm sorry for the many feelings that you are going through. I remember them well. It's weird, when you never planned on being a divorced man (or woman), taking on that mantle is just...off somehow.
You know already I think, that there are better days ahead. And I do believe it's true that the finality of the divorce does take some of the pressures away.
Toast your marriage like the passing of an old friend. Then it's time to get back to living your life the best you can.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."