Just found out she already filed

[ImprovedRomeo]

Thanks guys. OK help me out with a few options please. But first FM, I haven't given the mediation any thought really. I'm just going to show up and see what happens.

Yesterday DD told me that STBX said to her she's never going to come back and never live at the house again. It really broke my heart because DD started crying saying 'I want mommy and I want mommy to live here'. I told her that even if she doesn't live here we both love her very much. She said 'but I don't want mommy to live at her house forever'. I bet there was some conversation recently about that, perhaps when STBX went to visit her family and grandma or aunt said something to her. I don't know. I just don't think she should feel the burden of thinking about this stuff. She's not even 6yo for goodness sakes.

So here're a couple of ways I could respond to STBX:

1. Send her a 3 part email.
a. Copying and pasting her old 2007 emails and the promises we made to eachother etc.
b. She shouldn't discuss things with DD in such a finality way that it hurts DD's feelings. She's moved on and OK with her decision but she shouldn't expect a little kid to understand and accept it.
c. Tell her that I don't want to be in this relationship either, it's time that I start to find out what it's like to be with women who appreciate me and want to be me. (tough love ala Robx, Gucci and Gnosis)

2. Simply respond to her email and say something about DD's heartbreak over what she told her.

3. Simply respond to her email without saying anything else

Here's the deal with her, because of her roommate (another mom going through D) she's got someone there to constantly support her and therefore it's become so much easier for her to move on. It's like me living with one of you guys. I already know that they eat dinner together, they go out to movies etc together. It's like there's no chance in heck for me. Probably worse than the OM senario because with that chances are the spark would die out, OM would likely cheat on her and then the reality would hit hard. Here I don't have much to work with.

How do you guys see it? What should I do? I feel that if I tell her flat out that I'm moving on and don't want this unhealthy relationship with her...in theory this is supposed to make them feel they've lost you and put them in the pursuit mode but in this case and knowing her she'll just sit back and say 'oh well, even he doesn't want this relationship so I'm doing the right thing'.

I was thinking just weeks before the last bomb hit how it all seemed so normal. I'd hug her and just hold her tight and sometimes she'd let all her weight fall into my arms and I'd pick her straight up etc...

OK OK...dropping the rope...

Talk to me guys!