Your H is using his popularity/status/power to get the grad student to do him a favor for OW, right? That is what it looks like! yuck.
That's EXACTLY what he's doing, and it hurts that much more because I'm quite fond of this male grad student. We've socialized with him many times, and now WH is pitting him against me.
He strays, I object, and I'M the outcast? What amoral planet have I landed on?! Please somebody, wake me up!
