Positive Lifetime Attitude Award Goes to...

[newmama]

OK so you are trying to act like a roommate would since he is treating you like one and only sees you as a roommate....

roommates: (polite ones?)
split bills
have their own food
take turns cleaning
sometimes hang out together
sometimes let the other know if they will have company (like if someone will spend the night)
don't have to tell the other where they are going or doing

So not paying for the kids is only one part of the whole roommate scenario but I get it.

Interesting- wonder if you just kept going with this. Actually, you should check out SeeingRed's thread in the infidelity forum bc she just shared a session with her DB coach- Red's H has been in a long term A....maybe there is some advice that she received that could help you!