embracing change

[flowmom]

I was taught and willing to learn that "it is ok" not to have basic needs met. I was too proud to ask and too stupid to manipulate (act like a woman/girl/feminine/Mairylin Monroe). End result: I educated my H that it was ok to give very little. Your needs as described and probably the rest as well, are BASIC. Without those needs met, you can call your post man your husband. As it usually happens, I turned to Gfs, friends, family to cover the needs he should be taking care of. OW demanded her needs to be met. And she got that. Funny thing is, men DO want to take care of us, they feel useful and good about themselves. It really is a sad misconception...

I can soooo relate to this Kalni.

Now in piecing, I am having to educate him all over again, that I want gifts, soft talks, touches, support, encouragement.

Thanks for explaining this Kalni...I see better what you're up against in piecing.

It is not something you can ask for until you are back in a R.
Right now you would need to keep your expectations at zero.

Yes.