Unless something specific happens that will turn the W back to her own home, H/M......she will probably end up actually choosing between what her parents are encouraging and what you want for the two of you. An immature woman can make bad choices and I hope she will get her eyes open soon.
Thanks Sandi. You are so on target with your analysis. She has clearly already chosen her parents over me: they deliver all of her needs and ask for nothing in return.
There's no OM involved. My w is completely and totally wrapped up in spending her time with MIL. She even started dressing like MIL recently--an unusual combination of a light dress on top of a turtleneck or long-sleeve shirt, which she never wore until just recently but which has been MIL's trademark look.
The hard part on detaching is that we've been in MC for 5 months now (not a single change in my w as far as moving towards me), we're still separated, and our MC recommended once a week one-hour coffee dates, which we've been doing for 5 weeks now. We get along well on "friendly" terms, but my w is still not letting me in her house and no real marital progress. So, should I drop all the MC business and coffee dates and simply detach?
