The "difference" is feeling like cake-eating. I don't feel like a doormat but like I am making him too comfortable.
I see the danger..like he could comfortably do this with you and OW for longer. (like in my sitch) BUT on the outside looking in, it is interesting to see that prior to you peeking out, your kids said dad was an alien and since you have been peeking out, they see the old dad too. You have seen your old H (and still some of his OW behaviors like the goatee).
Do you think it is reasonable to say that your H missed you and the kids durign the dark period? And now he is being "nice" and his old self a little more because he is happy to see you guys? I realize this is mind reading. BUt how are we supposed to monitor results if we don't analyze them a little more.
Dark=alien H peeking out= old H
Is this too simplistic?
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
