I agree Shel with TH.This could well be the root of his problems and in the scheme of things they are pretty serious addictions. I would ask my doctor what the potential impacts of these abuses could have on someone(forgive me if you already know all this). I think iMlin mentioned she spoke to her doc who intervenend next time her H went to see him.Is this perhaps an option for you too? I think your goals for J are good ones however I think you have to set realistic expectations around what he can initially achieve and by when.EG he may need help on his addiction before he can get a job. Its sounds as if he is running away from something.Do you know what?The agression could be coming from the drugs? It will take time for you to understand what you want want I still dont know after 10 months.Dont rush into anything. I would personally think you are a LBS.If he didnt want to go he wouldnt have. Keep your chin up, working on yourself and looking after your kids.Its seems to be getting his attention.You have time..take lots of it.(((hugs Shel)))
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