Need Help with Husband's MLC

[JeanBean]

Thank you so much, I will take a look at it! :o)

Looking at my posts and the soul-searching I have done myself I can see some of the things he has complained about. Ugghhh...I am "all over the place" with the way I think and the way I write.

I understand at least now that it is "normal" for someone with ADHD and I have to learn how to control it besides taking meds (which do seem to help). When I get upset and stressed my ADHD symptoms get alot worse and I have to work at it to stop, pay attention, focus, and remember.

I believe this may be a huge part of our communication issues - he thinks I am not listening and don't care and just "do what I want to do."

I am realizing through this whole thing that I have issues of my own that need addressing and helped contribute to where "we" are. I am owning my part and trying to change it and it really is alot of work. I feel like I am going uphill most of the time but I am determined not to stop or give up.

I think since technially both my husband and I are struggling with depression and health problems and I have ADHD that I am learning how to deal with we are both going through alot of personal growth and struggles.

I also think that since I have not been so innocent either and had my own form of "midlife" issues and ran away I do understand where he is coming from to a point and the confusion and mixed feelings in him and I really do have empathy. It is not an easy place to be and I am not the easiest person to live with.

I appreciate the support and hope that it will keep me "grounded" and that I actually do learn and not make the same mistakes over and over. :o)