Red, it is really hard, but when I read about your H and the grad student, I didn't bat an eyelash. No surprise-not a setback! Just don't "blow your cover" and stay consistentwith your 180s...keep that poker face!

Your H is using his popularity/status/power to get the grad student to do him a favor for OW, right? That is what it looks like! yuck.

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004