Is this piecing?

[Cadet]

I think you should move to Separated, or MLC, if you think he's in one.

I usually don't like telling people but I think your H is in MLC. I have thought that for many months.

How am I supposed to stay dark with H here so much? I dont' know I can ever impact him as it seems that the successful ones on these forums have had to go months with NC before the WAS makes a turnaround on there own.

This is true. Detachment does not come easily. At first it is fake it until you make it, but as time goes along it does become easier.

do you have any plans to get out to work again? Even part-time? Maybe this would shake your H up a bit. It would be good for your self esteem too.

This is good advice.