If you don't do that your wife or OM will go to her first and tell her NOTHING is going on and that YOU are just a CRAZY JEALOUS fool she is divorcing.
They will paint innocence everywhere they are and paint you into a monster...
If YOU get there FIRST then OMW will be a LOT more inclined to believe you.
A word of advice here : NEVER NEVER NEVER WARN your spouse you are going to expose them to a target... ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS just DO IT.
If you give them warning, they will run damage control before you can even start to do any damage. Don't give your plans away DD, its tantamount to sitting at a poker table and showing your hand...
