Lost, confused and fighting for my marriage

[elvencat]

Wow.. I feel like we have the same husband at different ages. I just posted our story in the newbie forum. My h and I are separated living in the same house. We have had all the talks you listed and then some. I wish there was some magic wand we could wave and make everything all better. I, too, fell for the sex thing a week ago. I asked him if it meant anything and he said "I don't know." I asked him why he'd let me be physically close (cuddle on the couch and such) at home, but was forbidden to hold his hand in public. He said he knew it made me feel better, but we were still heading to divorce so he didn't want a pda... what does that even mean??

Anyway, just wanted to say I understand where you're coming from on the sex and physical stuff. We've also had the dating other people talk. He's agreed that he won't date anyone else until we're legally no longer married unless I decide I want to date someone else. Geesh. Thanks a lot. But I still want him to stay with me because I love him and believe family is more important than anything.

So... I'm trying to learn how to make myself better and hope everything else falls into place. I am amazed at what you have been able to do with everything going on, and hope that no matter what happens, you can keep the good things you've done for yourself going.