Maybe a bit off topic but I can't help but feel weirdly grateful for this experience. I mean I hate the fact that I was cheated on and left but at the same time had it not been for this experience I never would have sought out counselling for myself, never would have read the stack of self help books I have, and never learned how to establish and enforce healthy boundaries. It has taken me from a position of feeling weak and helpless to feeling strangely empowered.
I also have a WAS that is begging to come home as a result of my DBing and while I haven't decided whether to let her back into my life or not, I now know that regardless of what I decide, I'm going to be just fine. Better than that actually because I now have the strength to ensure that the people in my life will treat me with respect.
