M&H- excuse me for being nervy and asking, but what does not paying for his kids have to do with him not taking OW off of his facebook? Is it a punishment? Do you hope that by switching up the bills that he will take OW off of facebook? Or what? Thank you for explaining- I am curious and nosey!

Now about feigning ignorance about where he goes when he sees OW. It seems like when you are ready to switch approaches, or change something up, it would make sense that you could let him know that you know where he goes at that time. Because it would be part of the whole change in the dynamics between you and your WH. Do you see what I mean? letting him know that you know at this time, when you aren't making any major changes, isn't that powerful (IMO). But when you are ready to go dim or dark (if that is what you choose) then it seems like letting him know at that itime would make more of an impact.

Last edited by newmama; 05/11/10 05:24 AM.
me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004