My WAW - Chat/Text Msg affair with her ex

[Dan1977]

My wife has not texted OM since 5/6, and she only texted him once that day...hopefully to break it off with him. Things went pretty well over the weekend. We went out to a nice lunch on Saturday, we went and seen a movie and then we went shopping. We went out with my family for mothers day for lunch and it's been pretty low key. Things have been nice between us, and I admit I'm not giving her the cold shoulder and probably bought too many clothes for her for vacation. She wanted some sexy things to wear to bed for vacation, so it was hard to say no. I couldn't help it, I've only had sex 4 times this year and the thought of that with my wife in a romantic setting on vacation was hard to ignore.

So I guess things are better than they were, but she still sleeps in our daughters room. Hopefully that will eventually change, but I'm not asking for everything right away, I'm ok with baby steps as long as she can keep her end of the bargain and not talk to OM. He's still a friend on her Facebook page, but I have it set to block him if she tries to navigate to his page. I'm not going to press the issue right now, I'll wait and see if she deletes him (again) like she did last time. I can't make my wife love me, and when I try to force her to do things, it only makes her rebel against me more. My best card to play is to lead by example and show I'm a changed better person which will draw her closer to me instead of me physically telling her why our marriage is worth saving.

Things are going well, hopefully we can making baby steps towards the road to recovery. My next meeting with my therapist is on Wednesday, so I will see what she has to say about my situation as well. Look forward to everyone's comments...

Dan