embracing change

[flowmom]

OK newmama and OP, I am going to tackle some of the needs that have been unmet or inconsistently met in my M:

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I need attention and quality time (not a lot, just a little)

I need affection (I am NOT clingy or demanding in this area, just looking for the basics)

I need to be spoken to and treated with respect

I need to be in a M where the inevitability of conflict is acknowledged, and where both parties are able and willing to work on finding a mutually agreeable way of resolving conflict

I need to feel that my husband and I can share our emotional lives with one another

When I am sick, extremely sleep-deprived, or my aunt dies, I need some sympathy and care

I need occasional verbal expressions of how I am valued

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Probably not a complete list, but you get the idea. Unrealistic? Y'all can be the judges. These are needs that my friends and family members have generally been able to meet. H did meet some of these needs before the bad years started, but not consistently.