What to do when their friends suggest leaving?

[DaddyLongShanks]

What could you have done about this looking back?

Thanks, DLS, Looking back, I really don't know. For one thing, I was unaware it was happening back then. Keep in mind that in my situation back then, five minutes (literally) before she walked out the door, I actually thought my marriage was just fine.

What was "it"? Being cheated on? Or a combination of her pulling away and cheating on you. Was she also echoing a negative sentament on you at the same time?

To my credit, I did "sense" that her going out with her buddies at night was "not good." When she first started working where she met these girls (2 sisters), she didn't like them at all, and some of the things she told me about them were pretty alarming. And it did surprise me when she started hanging out with them. I didn't think too much about it though, because I"knew" (yea right) my then wife was pretty level-headed.

So she started hanging out with these females who didn't like her at first. How did they lure her in, and where they still hanging around after the house was broken up? Many of these friends around for when the house is being broken up split once the work is done.

I brought up those concerns only once, and she got quite defensive about it, so I left it alone after that. I suppose looking back, I should have been a bit pushier . . .so much for the "controlling guy" theory, and if anything, I'm even less so now. Go figure, eh?

So being more demanding in the situation would have helped you? Or did it matter since she was not listening by time she got deep into it.

But overall . . .I got nothin on what I might have done differently, with regard to that particular part of the problem anyway.

So looking back are you saying there was nothing you could have done or it would have been too complex? What did the problem look like looking back ( define the problem )?

Thanks.