Moving on with my life #2

[S.T. _I Made It!]

hey there, sorry, I'm not coming on here as much either...been here too many years I think.

I do really hope for all of your sakes that H really is trying to change. I do believe that you need to keep your distance, and some boundaries as you can so that things don't get so confusing and up and down for baby. you do know the chances of him going back to his old road is very very high.

However, if you can keep some boundaries but still allow him to be a good person/dad as he should be, and if you can keep your emotions in check, this can be okay.

have you told him that you think it's wonderful that he's becoming a great dad etc, and if he is really wanting his family back that is something that will take a long time, and that you feel it is best that he focus for one year on taking care of himself and making the right choices, and after that you will see how things are.

cause he definitely needs a full year if not 2 years without any R including you, and having some kind of alcohol counseling, before he even thinks of trying to get back his family. and even then, it should be a very very slow process.