You are the sane one, the stable one, remember?!?!?
Ignore her comment. I'm sure it was meant to throw the focus off of her. If she chooses to leave, she will.
You have to get back on the horse and continue with your plan.
It is time to face your fear. In reality, there is very little you can actually DO, other than make the affair more difficult than life with you. Has the pastor spoken with your wife? Has he explained that the vows you both took before God were sacred? That after you say "Let no man put asunder", God would NEVER put another man in her path?
Ken, I resisted tossing H out and going dark. All it got me was a year of turmoil, and continued damage to my marriage. Now that I have left H and OW alone to allow their affair to disintegrate, I am already seeing signs that it is. (I think) He misses me, our life, our kids. She is feeding her feelings with all the drama. It seems you are doing better with that but I am sure she sees herself as Juliet and you as the one in her way.
Prepare to let her go. Get things set up so you can keep the kids. Did you freeze your credit? Keep with your plan. Whether she leaves now or later, your plan doesn't change. Maintain your 180's, no pursual.
(If it were me, she wouldn't spend another night under my roof!)
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