No longer "stuck808". Now my name is Bond. "MrBond

[MrBond]

I think she is dealing with her own demons, because she's actually living the life that she despised. She knows she can always come home, but I think she sees her sister's place as a sanctuary where she won't get judged. Of course all of this is incredibly selfish, but it's what she chooses.

She hates not having the kids all the time, but would rather sacrifice that than to have a life that she "feels" isn't right. Of course, what she thought was right initially was life with married OM.

Personally I still think she's confused inside. I don't know how else to describe her behavior where she planned the OM's going away party WITH his W. And didn't think it would hurt me.

I think that's the main thing. There are times when I'm still an after-thought to her, but she has been putting in an effort.

As for yesterday, well I tried a couple of things.

First I asked her what was wrong. And I got a "nothing".

Later in the day, I hugged her and she quickly broke it off.

So I didn't pursue it.

I'm wondering though if I should write her a quick note to say that I'm here if she wants to talk or directly talk to her about her problems. For years, she's held things in and I never pursued. It's what got us to this point in the first place. IDK. Something different I suppose.