Looking at what you wrote about no expectations and your choice of a H who liked no expectations, I can only ask are your "needs" reasonable for this M to survive
I'm not sure I understand your question...can you explain?
Originally Posted By: OldPilot
and do you not have to change to no expectations again if your M fails
Yes, good point.
Originally Posted By: OldPilot
Why not change before your marriage ends. Your H liked the fact that you were independent, self sufficient person. He still more than likely wants that.
Just to clarify, I've expected less and less from my M in recent years. I don't think he'd fault me for expecting too much of him as a husband. I've always been independent and self-sufficient as a W, but I wasn't able to be as a mother. I have had to rely on him for his help and financial support. Becoming financially independent is a 180 that I need for myself at this point. But being emotionally self-sufficient is NOT a 180 for me...I've been there for years.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
