My Wife And Her Emotional Affair

[sandi2]

I met with the pastor and he is willing to to this. Now how do we convince the OM to sit down with us?

Correct me if I'm wrong, but didn't the Pastor, and his wife, sit down with you, your W, the OM and the OMW way back in your first thread? Didn't do much good then. Does he have a different plan?

Should I ask the pastor to bring my sitch to the church board? He is willing to do that. Should he suggest censure or disfellowship of the OM?

Depending on what your church practices. So many do not exercise church discipline these days, but what about your W? Are you wanting the church to withdraw fellowship from OM but not her?

I don't neccessarily disagree with the things you've been advised, Ken, but sometimes I get the idea that you want somebody else to do the hard stuff so you won't have to be the bad guy. There's been a lot of talk about confronting the OM, but I wonder what good that would do when the problem is in the heart of your wife. The church can turn OM out, you can call him out to a show-down in public, etc., but if she want him.....then I think she is the one you need to deal with.