So you give him HIS bike and you don't know where he is...isn't that why he left you? So what if he is riding around with OW! He is begging for you to leave him alone and give him some peace...

I also agree that it doesn't matter what happened with anyone else's sitch...I only told you about my friend because it shows that no matter how things APPEAR we really don't know the outcome until it is done...

I picture you sitting in a corner fretting and wondering, "what is he doing now? is he saying nice things to her? is he on the computer looking at something? how can I check up on him? how can I get his attention away from OW?"

When really you need to be thinking,"What is that I need to do to be a better person? What do I need to do to be a better mom? What I can think about that will make me happy? What can I do that will make me happy? I want to control my own happiness and be happy with ME! I want to define myself by MY OWN accomplishments! I want to be the best ME! I want to be loveable! I want to likeable! I want to make new friends and do new things! I want to enjoy life because I can! I want to make my life great! I am in control of MY life, MY happiness, MY actions..."

I have only been reading your thread two days and am already feeling emotionally drained...if I feel that way how do others trying to help you feel? How do you feel? Is this how you want to feel? Is this how you want to project yourself to others? You come across pitiful and helpless...those are not attractive qualities...are you waiting for someone to save you? You are on the Titanic! You are sinking...only you can save yourself...if you don't you will be dragging everyone around down with you...that is not life and it is not fair.

Just curious, how old are you? I think it was mentioned your son is 15, is this correct? Do you have friends? Do you have family nearby? Do you have family that speaks to you?


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Happy and together