No big ideas here on what to say to OM. At the very least,"Your "friendship" with my wife is inappropriate and is interfering with our marriage. It must end."
YOU must do the exposing. Otherwise it becomes a gossip monster. YOu want control over what it said, at least initially. "My wife is involved with OM. I want it to end. Please encourage them to do the right thing and stop seeing and contacting each other."
Don't ask your wife about the divorce unless you are ready to do that. It will come across as manipulative and desperate. If you must know where you stand at any given moment, look at her behavior. Is she still contacting OM? You could ask her "Where do we stand?" but you may not get an honest answer.
Maybe the board could talk to him if your talk has no effect. Like the pastor could say he will take it to the board if this nonsense is still going on by their next meeting.
"If you strike me down, I will become more powerful than you can possibly imagine!" 1st thread
