My Wife And Her Emotional Affair

[ken5140]

Thanks Allen and WhatNow for that advice.

I met with the pastor and he is willing to to this. Now how do we convince the OM to sit down with us? And can you give us ideas for what we should say to him if he does meet with us? We can ask him, "What is your objective with my wife?" We think he will say, "To just be friends." That is what he has said before.

Also I need to ask you about a couple of other ideas the pastor and I had. What if the pastor or other church friends are willing to do the exposing. Would that be better than me doing the exposing?

I haven't been doing any R or A talk lately with my wife, but what if I ask her, "Who should file for divorce, me or you?" Is that a bad idea?

Should I ask the pastor to bring my sitch to the church board? He is willing to do that. Should he suggest censure or disfellowship of the OM? We don't think it will phase the OM, but there is that possibility.