The journey begins

[ClingingToHope]

Have you found that it's easier on you when you don't see her? In my case I'm kinda numb from the whole experience, I haven't seen her for almost a month but I'll see her in a couple of days at the court mediation meeting. We'll see how that goes.

Yes. SR. I definitely find it easier when I don't see her. I wish I could get to the point where I don't talk to her either.

I don't want to hear about her family or her job or her friends.

My divorce parenting class said we need to figure out a way to work together and the counselor suggested talking on the phone a couple of times a week.

Lord, that alarmed me. I want no part of that. I'd really just like email reports and go on with my non-STBXW life.

I've purposely backed way off on stuff with the girls. Medical and school questions. She wanted sole responsibility for this so she can have it. I'm there for the girls to confide in if necessary.

I'm guessing this will change/evolve as time goes on. There are lots of twists and turns ahead, but I will NOT be the pathetic ex- always taking whatever crumbs STBXW has to offer. I did that for the last three years of the marriage and the first several months of the separation.