What to do when their friends suggest leaving?

[Bummedout]

1) "Would you agree or disagree that often times an "ego" is really fueled by fear of some sort?"

Yes I'd agree with that, in the broad sense.

2)"Would you agree or disagree that often times the "push and pull" can only happen if two parties are participating?"

Yes, I agree with that too. But I'm also aware that virtually all human interaction involves some sort of emotion. It what emotions and how strongly manifested that is the rub.

3) Do you mean you are leaving the friend situation alone? Can you clarify please?

Yes, I am leaving it alone for now. In other words, I'm not handling it any differently than if she were talking to the Bank about our account or going to the grocery store. I gave her the article, not much else I can do at this point. And while I can't say I got a "positive result" I know she read it, seemingly she read it twice. I haven't even asked if if she read it.
I certainly haven't seen a negative result either as of yet.

4)"By "doing nothing" you actually drew your W back to you."

Not entirely true. Not at all true actually. "Nothing begats nothing", and nothing I've read here or seen for myself demonstrates otherwise. The reality is that most of the time one HAS to react. The quandry is in just how to react.

I've done a few things. For one, concurred that possibly separation might be best . .which I don't mean at all. These improvements have also taken place after I gave her the article a few days ago, when I was told by many here that doing that would be some sort of huge mistake that was gonna push her away and tick her off and make me appear controlling.

None of that seems to be true. Chalk one up for "doing something" in my mind, at least until something manifests itself to make me rethink this apparent non-step backward as it was supposed to be, though still to soon to declare it successful with any certainty.

5)You are providing some decent information to talk about... menopause can be a very difficult time for a woman.

Well . . .I understand that I don't really understand the menopause thing. As for my providing some decent information, it's mainly because I'm kinda given up on people actualy caring about my present concern and are more interested in lambasting me. You didn't, so I basically throw in the towel and play along. I'd probably have already started a different thread or joined in another with some of this, but some folks just seemed determined to give advice I wasn't asking for nor desired just yet, made some obviously bad judgments and piss-poor assessments, so I've given up on what I want. Gotta go, she just got home