H took DSS16 to his Monday activity and I suspect I won't see him again until tomorrow before work. He'll be home around 5:30, as he leaves OW at 3:30. I know where he goes, but don't have proof that I want to share.
Should I just feign ignorance? I am not snooping any more, as I only did twice, once to confirm the A and once to confirm he wasn't maintaining no contact like he had promised. He is hiding it from me.
This is my last stuck point. The rest I'm good at.
Pretty well decided that I will be laying down the boundary of not sharing my money with him any more. We'll split bills 1/5 me and 4/5 him excepting the mortgage, which I'll pay 50% of. He still contacts OW on FB and that was a boundary I laid down. I asked him a few weeks ago to get rid of her as a "friend" on there and he said he'd think about it, he wanted to be the one to decide, so I've decided to tell him that since he won't maintain no contact in all ways, I will not be paying for his children any longer.
I know you're not supposed to be laying ultimatums early in MLC, so I'm about 90% decided on this boundary... I already said it but he may have just forgotten about it. However, I feel he's disrespected me by saying he will not cut her off entirely.
(remembering that he thinks I think he's not seeing her in person and the PA has stopped... but I know that's a lie)
This is my last stuck point... the rest I'm very good with, thank you very much... moving forward, feeling good, going to get off these stupid, addictive boards for a few hours tonight to file my taxes finally so I can speak to lawyer tomorrow to file bankruptcy (reorganization, not discharge of debt) and start over financially. I'm looking forward to getting back on my feet financially. We make decent money but neither of us can say no to the other, especially me to H. (I like to eat out occasionally but H likes to blow money constantly and buy toys.)
I'm grateful that I have this chance to start over, many do not get it.
Bombed on my diet, you guys... I ate junk today. Starting fresh tomorrow. Part of it is not getting to bed early enough so that I oversleep - and don't get up to go to the gym... when I work out, I don't want to eat junk.
