I am sorry to hear of your sitch. Have been reading for a while because I feel that maybe my wife has been where you are. I maybe am trying to understand what she is thinking. Becasue since the day my wife left me, but then came back I have really turned my life around. I thought that was what she is looking for. But now she is confused I think. I keep rooting for you that he will get a clue and get some help. It is obvious that he needs to get some stuff out and dealt with. I think my W has the same problem. I will keep checking in on you and hope for the best. Stay strong for your kids, that is how I keep going.