Shelbel I've just had a quick dash through your sitch, and although I'm far from qualified to offer any advice, here's what I think. Just steering clear will help you become less confused and give him some time to think about what he really wants. I know that NC really helped me screw my head back on and start feeling like a human being again. In terms of communication I think this is key. Know your own mind before speaking to him to discuss where he stands.
Reality is that which, if you don't believe in it, doesn't go away.
