Buffet. Well, I thought I was the only one unable to sleep tonight. Pretty cheesey, X taking all S's personal care items. And the Mothers' Day/Fathers/ Day scheduling...how childish and foul. I'm sorry for you and for some of the sh1t that's bound to come further on down the line.
At least my X has fallen off the face of the earth!
Spent all of today prepping for big tag sale this weekend. Getting rid of damn near everything. And glad to do so!
My craigslist ad has brought a ton of responses. Best part is since it's not a separate apartment, just a master bedroom suite in my house, under my roof, same entrance, common areas, etc., normal tenant/landlord laws don't apply. I.E., I don't have to accept the first "taker": I get to pick who I want. Best prospect so far: A guy from N.C. - my age - who starts a new job one mile from here from here tomorrow (today). Says he expects 6-9 months to sell his place (kinda like me) and will be going home weekends. Hope he takes it and relieves some of the $ sitch. Hang in there, buffet. Get some sleep. I'm gonna try right now.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
I have a topper to the personal care items, S2 was sick at Daycare today so I went to pick him up and go over to "his" house.
S2 is learning to potty train (kinda!) went to the pot and noticed that XW has now taken the toilet paper!!
Not on accident either as last time i was there I bought a whole pack (like 24 rolls) that was 1 week ago, so I went looking in the linen closet where spares are kept and the package is gone as well!
So I know everyone has some crazy and unique things happen to them but has anyone had their crazy XW or XH steal the toilet paper?!
It is actually funny and sad and pathetic at the same time!!!
H: 30 W: 31 S: 2 T/M: 6/4 D Final 4-5-10
Bomb: June 09 Status: D'd and moving onward and upward?
Re. mother's day, that sucks. It was MY weekend with the kids per schedule, and I still let my ex meet us for an hour to play baseball, then let him take the kids for 90 minutes--turns out they went to get me a present!
I just don't see the need to be so regimental but then again I am not a crazy walk-away...and aren't you glad you aren't either!
so I have been checking in on threads and commenting here and there but not really adding anythng to mine. So here goes!
Nothing new except sadly the craziness with XW continues: taking personal care items from the house, crazy yelling, barging into the home and what not are the norm with her. Sprinkle in a litte "i want to reconcile (but still want to keep my boyfriend)" and that about sums it ups.
However---in a big change of pace and much to XW detriment I finally took the boxing gloves off with her a little bit (not literally:))Thru attorney and the court have gotten the order that forced me to come to the old homke while my new home was being built to be removed---ideally not the best for S2 but the break ins and yelling matches that she was instigating were not either. So now effective tomorrow I can stay elsewhere and she will not be able to waltz in and try to start problems.
She is plenty pissed by this but she is getting what she asked for (and deserves) the judge actually told her L that she needs to "cool it" and that she is "asking for worse" so now there is a pattern established with the court!!
Another gut shot here as well---XW and OM are planning on getting married as soon as they can and are even looking at going to the same honeymoon resort as we went to on our honeymoon 5 years ago.....I know because apparently XW sent away for some info and when they looked up her name they sent info via e-mail to my e-mail address that was on file! Stupid XW but also hurtful to see that as well. I mean there are only like what 1 million resorts out there and you have to go to that one.
Ridiculous! As I am typing this I am realizing that it is much more fun to reply to your threads than to type on mine, not sure if that is a good thing or not (probably not!) but it seems more light to kinda joke with you guys who are way ahead of me it seems than it is to rehash my crap...
H: 30 W: 31 S: 2 T/M: 6/4 D Final 4-5-10
Bomb: June 09 Status: D'd and moving onward and upward?
Buffet, sometimes we just need to share it! So sorry to hear that your STBX is such an insensitive bitch by going to the same resort that you and she went to for your honeymoon. It just amazes me sometimes how the people we love(d) can be so oblivious. It hurts!
Hmmm....tad bit psycho? My XW was ring shopping online while still at home, so I understand the feeling a little there. Ink was barely dry on the decree before she remarried.
Thanks guys! It is nice to get some validation (yes it is nice for US to get validated too!) that she really is that crazy and cold hearted.
Recently I have been taking more of the best revenge is a life well lived approach. I just got back from a guys week that we went out to (get jealous BBJ) San Diego and watched the Cardinals play and than hung at the beach and bummed around for a few days, awesome!
I am also trying to plan another vacation for later in the summer now. I have always heard about other people "finding" themselves after going thru this and never really understood what that meant, I still think that I do not grasp this 100% but am beginning to "find" myself as well.
Mostly the only remaining sadness and anger towards XW is in regards to what she is doing and how it effects S2--in that regard I struggle with knowing that it is good that he has a relationship with both of us to I wish she would disappear and I could take care of S2 without her BS!
H: 30 W: 31 S: 2 T/M: 6/4 D Final 4-5-10
Bomb: June 09 Status: D'd and moving onward and upward?
Hey if it makes you feel better, sometimes it really is more fun posting elsewhere. It gets you out of your own situation for a bit and usually can help lighten your heart. On occasion it gets you some better ideas.
Hope things are better this weekend. Hang in there.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Cardinals in San Diego?? Jealous, party of one!! Some day I will have to make a similar trip to watch my boys play.
Been following the Detroit perfect game sitch. That poor Umpire! You can tell he feels so guilty and responsible. Which he is, but still! Wish they'd reverse the call...
