so if you had your kids right now and say they were older and going through similar or exactly the same problems in their own lives and they were feeling like you are feeling right now exactly, what would you tell them?

I'm assuming you love them, you talk about them enough.
What would you tell them if they were going through what you're going through right now? How would you calm them down, how would you get them to see the good in the situation? How would you give them the strength and inspiration to continue on with life and do better when the world around them appears to be $hitting on them everyday?

I'm serious, I'm asking you real questions, what would you do?