Hey DLS, I'm just not seeing that. After reviewing many of the threads he "contributes" (a misnomer)in, I can't think of anyone else here that would be a better candidate to be put on an 'ignore' list.
From his very first post here at the DB forums, it's been spouting out advice like he's an expert. He didn't come here with his own troubles and grow through it, an I've seen NO evidence that he has any experience himself dealing with any of what many of us are actually experiencing.
One thing I NEVER found in his 1000 posts was something like "Dang! I have no idea what ya should do, sorry" It is ALWAYS his supposedly having our various situations pegged and he knows just what to do. In other words "classic "know it all", and his track record certainly doesn't support his view of himself. Like I pointed out earlier, even a broken clock is right once in a while. But that isn't really good enough to be toying with some VERY "real world" situations where relationships is on the line.
He might be better served taking wild guesses and parlaying them as artificial wisdom in a "Household hints" forum, in my opinion. Sadly, I've noticed many people here seem to willing tolerate his "whack-em-with-a-bat" style of "help." I suppose it could be because folks are probably somewhat emotionally exhausted and feeling a little inferior to begin with, by virtue of the very reason most of us are here, so we tolerate it, even concur or subordinate ourselves to it.
Not me, thank you. I can deal with a little constructive criticism, but I won't tolerate some Michelle wannabe with no apparent experience dissing me and making knee-jerk character judgments on me that are laughably naive. It's like nobody here is even allowed to be a little skeptical or even ask too many questions about any advice given.
Again, when I was here ten years ago, it wasn't that way at all. This is NOT a good development, in my opinion, and my admittedly incomplete 9but fairly substantial) perusal of past topics and how they played out tends to support my suspicions.
I honestly do wish I cold afford the counciling advertised here, at least that way I'd know I wasn't taking as "The Gospel of Gooch" the theories of a 17 year old kid read "Divorce-busting" for some nerdy reason who might never even have been on a date or something.
I've done my time the first time around in this divorce game. I do NOT want to lose my present wife, but I'm somewhat pragmatic from my prior relationship failure and still in control enough to not become a groveler before strangers, blindly accepting some pretty rash and wildly off-base judgments on my character and nature. This seems to confuse some of the alleged "board experts" here, so therefore I must be Genghis Khan reincarnate or something.
Note I have posted some of what I'm up to in my present situation, yet these so called "experts" ignore that stuff and still want to focus on taking potshots at my Character. So much for "we only want to help" Not true. They only want to lord over folks who are in a weakened state to feed their egos . . .and God forbid anyone actually question them.
Gooch and one or two others aren't really here to "help" they're here to make themselves feel important by subordinating others in their moments of weakness. I simply won't cater to their selfish needs, so I have to be made "the Boogie man. Which would be kinda funny, but I know some people really do want help, need help including myself.
But fortunately, I haven't let my guard down enough to fall for it. I suppose since I was already aware of this board from my previous situation, and came here before I self-destructed into a desperate basket case this time, I could see the ruse fairly clearly.
Frankly, I think Michelle Herself might have been moderating back then, and some of these pretenders would have been nipped in the bud when this Forum was much smaller and easier to keep an eye on.
Just a few of my arrogant, anti-social, abusive, megalomaniacal, narcissistic thoughts.
Life may be short, but . . . well . . . it actually IS short, now that I think about it . . . . particularly when compared to planetary formation and stuff.
