Just in case anyone is actually reading this thing & has some ideas...

I've been reading about setting boundaries & making your wants known. So I'm wondering when I'm supposed to be having this conversation with him?

How am I going to convey to him what I would expect from him in order to even consider working on our R without sounding like I'm demanding? He isn't exactly in the talking mood, but he's feeling hurt & left behind (according to MIL).

So do I reach out to him to talk? Do I give it more time? Do I let him bring it up?

How and when do you communicate with a WAS who sees themselves as a LBS?

And could someone who knows please tell me which position I'm actually in? It would make taking advice easier if I knew which role I'm to take. It really does make a difference, I think.

Anyone?

formerly known as "shelbel"
Me 40, stbxh 40
DSs 9, 7 & 3
M9, T10
Stbxh is a diagnosed bipolar & an addict. The end.