WAW Using God II

[pigskin]

Glad you guys had a pleasant day even though it didn't meet your expectations. Remember, we're not supposed to expect anything from the WAW except the unexpected.

I wish she would wake up. She knows she should fix things and that that is the right answer. But she is too stubborn to give in to what she knows is right.

You took the words right out of my mouth. I am quickly gaining speed on catching up with you in my sitch because my W won't "wake up" either. I haven't done enough to stand up for myself and my family. It is up to us to take action. You have done a whole lot more than I have in that area, so I'm not in a good place to give advice, but being Mr. Nice Guy never seems to work. Look at all you did to make a great day for your family. Did she appreciate it at all? No. You gave it a shot, I don't blame you at all. Don't be too disappointed in her reaction. To know your kids and even in-laws had a good day should make you feel good about yourself. Hats off to you-you tried. She doesn't care right now. Maybe she never will.

All I can do is keep pounding. And try not to give up even though it seems pointless at times.

Yes. If you have the patience. I want my W to see how I've changed and learned about myself. She doesn't care. It sucks. I'm not telling you anything new. You know my sitch well, I have a lot of the same feeling that you do and have tried a lot of the same things. It hasn't worked for me, either. If your trying not to give up, take your time and be patient. Don't go out of your way to do anything nice for her. Be the great Dad that your kids know and deserve.

Continued blessings and prayers. Take care of yourself!

Thanks, IDU. Like my reply to coach stated, she DID care. She just didn't fall all over me, which is not to be expected.

I know she is still very conflicted, and the further along she gets in her studies of faith, the more reinforcement she is going to get that she needs to turn herself around.

A woman wanting to shut me out of her life wouldn't ask me out to lunch. She's done things like this before, seemingly "dipping her toe in" to try to rebuild something. If that is the case I have to expect very slow going and not act like a wolf on a pork chop. It all has to be driven by her, and I can't make it easy for her. She has to prove herself.

Waiting on God means being patient as to His timetable. If He wants me to bolt, He will make me more at peace with divorce. I've surrendered my free will in this area to Him. I do not wish to do anything that is not in accordance with His plan. When/if He gets me to the point where I feel comfortable with filing, I will know that that is His will. Until then I can't act according to my own agenda, mainly me being lonely and wanting female companionship.