First: My mother asked at the last minute if I could bring my kids down to visit with her and her visiting family (my uncle and aunt) this past weekend. We had already arranged for the kids to be with their mom this weekend for mothers day. Still, I texted STBXW and asked about it, and I was pleasantly surprised when she agreed. I didn't mention anything about her last text to me.
I told the kids to be ready for me at 8:30am and I would pick them up. Now, I know what building they are in, but not which apartment. They don't have a landline, and their cellphones don't get any reception in the apartment. I ended up having to ask neighbors which unit was theirs. The cellphone thing is going to continue to be a problem, as I can't reach my kids at all during their weeks with mom. STBXW does not want to get a landline.
Second: Saturday night was D17's band banquet! She was up for a leadership position, and I really wanted to be there. STBXW did not want to be anywhere near me, see me, or speak to me. She bought her own ticket to the event, and I sat at a the table with our neighbors. When I arrived, I discovered that our table was in front of STBWX's table. She didn't look happy, but it was too late for her to move. Even though mostly everyone there knows about the separation, I think it was mostly uncomfortable for them. I mean, it was weird! Why in the world couldn't we at least sit at the same table for our daughter's night?
D17 won section leader! She was so worried about it, and it was a tense moment leading up to the announcement. She was so happy, but it was a little poignant watching her look back and forth between her parents tables (and yes, she looked at her friends table's first!)
Afterward, I gave her a hug, told her congratulations, and then left. I wish we could have all gone to celebrate together. The situation just seems so wrong, and I'm pretty angry overall.
Hopefully, over time this will improve.
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