I don't believe a woman has to be a WAW in order to prefer not to be smothered by her H. Many women have a natural desire to have some "alone time" without the H breathing down her neck. If that woman does become a WAW later on in the M, then I think the smothering issue is increased. But my point is that she doesn't "have" to be a WAW in order to prefer her H not smother her.
The right amount of attention from the S is very nice, but when it reaches the point of smothering.....that is not healthy in the man or the woman.
That point of "smothering" is way lower for a WAW than a spouse. Thats what I was saying. A WAW may feel smothered to be next to or close to you for a few minutes, where a spouse would not have a hard time finding 30 minutes in a day to be close to you.
Also a WAW will usually be actively pulling away if you get close to them since they associate that with their OM/OW.
