It sounds like you were "Mothering" him. Money, responsibilities, tasks, no need for him to take care of you. He was a child in the M. He probably said you were needy and clingy because he felt responsible for your feelings.
yes, i guess i was 'mothering' him. i was trying to be responsible where h wasn't responsible. i figure we were a partnership. where he was weak, i'd be strong. where i am weak, is where he is strong.
if he was responsible for my feelings, why did he say things to hurt my feelings and then be oblivious to the fact that i'm hurt?
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These are all places to enforce boundaries. His problems are his problems don't let him heap his issues onto you.
why do i feel like those boundaries are not mine to set? i can't control the boundary between him and his mother. i'm sticking to the law - i am not waivering and i'm not asking for more than what i am entitled to. i'm trying not to let him get to me with the accusations. but at some point, when will he ever realize this? my boundary setting is to just walk away and let him work on his own issues that he may or may not even be aware of. he's just sitting in his own world lamenting how unfair things have been for him and his parents because of evil me.
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You are doing the right things.
thanks coach.
i hate to ask this. i can do all of the right things but will i ever get my bf back? is there ever a way to turn an ILYBINILWY into a ILY again? i ask you because of your knowledge of people and relationships.
