New to this Community seeking advice

[MichelleLT]

You own Divorce Remedy right? You should reread it. I always found it gave me focus and inspiration.

Going dark gives her a chance to miss you. It makes the WAS think you are moving on with your life, whether you are really keeping the door open for reconciliation or not. Initially, a lot of them feel relieved, the pressure is off. But underneath, they often find once they have processed those feelings, there is loneliness and regret and even love still. Then they have to decide what to do about it.

It's a fine line to walk if the WAS is insecure and/or prideful - they often won't give in to the desire to reconcile because they are afraid you will reject them or because they cannot admit they made a mistake cuz it makes them feel foolish.

A lot of times what happens though is that they find excuses to contact you. To feel you out and see how much you have moved on (it's good to be GAL and happy obviously).

The only way to see how your W reacts is to try it. And give it a good chance, a few weeks, to see if it changes how she reacts/interacts with you at all.