My husband is addicted to an emotional affair

[nicole8]

Fellow limboLand citizen.... Yes limbo will continue for quite sometime. I have learned that most of what my h says isn't true or even part of reality. However, there are instances when I have seen him and he does seem to have been here on planet earth and speaks some of the language I understand. I really cannot do anything for the internal crisis my h is fighting.... Actually there is one thingi can do and that is be his friend.

The other thing I have come to realize is that he really doesn't need anyone telling him what to do. He also needs to feel more needed and/or wanted. I'm unsure how to accomplish this when he is staying at his moms house. He has said in the past that I have all control over our money and finances. Which is true, we have both let it happen that way. Then he gets mad and feels helpless when he doesn't know something about our situation financially. So how can I change these things in our life and for that matter how can I make him feel needed and wanted?

Feeling needed is a basic human need in my opinion. I think the ow doesn't need him snd he thinks I don't so the answer in his head is d. Does this make sense? My h thinks he is damaged goods as he put it and he said himself that he is in a crisis.... Really you think? I still love him and it is so hard to watch him do this to him and to us.