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[Gardener]

Just journaling--

today is fine. No problems, really.
Except I'm thinking: why am I expected to just keep plugging along like everything is normal and fine?
If I were a widow, I would get a pass on all sorts of expectations of normal, happy behavior.

aver,
There have been interesting posts on these boards as well as mention in the Abandonment To Healing book about how widowhood would almost have been "better":

-S, M & R are dead to LBS. Pain is no different, even greater it can be argued.
Family/friends would gather 'round, tighten the circle. Instead of rapidly dispersing
There would be rituals, formal closure, acknowledgment of "anniversaries"
People would call, visit, "check up: constantly.
Willingness to understandingly listen to just abut anything you have to say about the situation.
The pain is understood and comforted and acknowledged that it will be so for a long time.
Sympathy, empathy, commiserating.
Casseroles.

The very real list goes on and on

Being just a pathetic old LBS, I gotta keep my chin up, act like my pride is intact, and keep going through the days.

Yep. Tell me about it

Bleh.

That, too. Lots of that.

Gotta move this thread over to Surviving the Big D. Hang out with my buddy Gardener.

Maybe I can figure out how to do that tonight.

Sigh. [/quote]