The AA analogy is a good one-- people here are not going to let you get away with stuck behaviors.
His bike and guitar? Please-- you don't even want that stuff! If it's a $25000 bike, maybe you can use that to negotiate keeping other stuff (cars?).
In the early days I felt so entitled to my negative feelings I had difficulty letting go of them. 25 years of marriage down the drain (27 now, still not D), who wouldn't be sad and furious? I felt I deserved a lot of sympathy, and that my anger was RIGHTEOUS. But you know what? I was only hurting myself and my SON. You have NO IDEA how much this circus is hurting your boy. You have got to get a grip.
