Sorry to hear your mother's day was not so great! But you are a great mother... picking up the pieces and finding the stregnth to host mother's day, and raising a baby for the most part alone!
Cry at the therapists, let it all out! be confident at the parking lot when meeting with H. And have a BLAST at the Martini Bar and LAUGH!!!
Im not sure there is any correlation to family's with higher divorce rates... just makes me see the things they, as a couple, could have done to make themselves happier as a married pair. makes me angry, now having read DB and DR, knowing that it doesnt have to be unhappily ever after! Makes me think too many people fall into the Divorce Trap!
have a cousin who went through a D two years ago, and she regrets everything! She had an EA and is now with the guy and finds that life is not greener on the other side. She felt that she fell out of love with her H, and had two kids under 10, and yes it destroyed her family. Not only her family, but the guy she was seeing was married w children, and she destroyed his family too! She feels guilty everyday knowing that she ruined so many families, and made so many changes for all the children and families involves. needless to say, she does not agree with my H's decision, and hopes the baby would change his mind. I say dont be so sure... She and her H did try therapy, but i think her EA kept her from really wanting to try to work things out. she says she didnt get the affection and attention from her H that she so badly wanted. And when she did get it from someone else, she felt that it was time to move on. Now she realizes the new guy is not the 'father' to his children as she loved him for, and says she cries ever day. She lives in another country, and so I dont really talk to her much. Dont know why I shared this story... just wanted write how much DIVORCE SUCKS!!!
keep your chin up NM! Dont give up the fight!!! Im rooting for you!
