I agree, Puppy. Thanks for taking the time of re-reading all my stitch again.
I did try the gentle approach for more than one month, here are the results:
What I did: I agreed to pay for her staying one more week because she wanted to "cry and be sad" at her moms.
What she did: Spent the week dating the OM.
What I did: Offered to be the one who'd move out so she wouldn't need to look for a place. I bought her groceries. Spend an entire night cleaning the place, washing her clothes, etc so she'd be ready as soon as she landed for her new job. I wrote a letter saying I trusted her.
What did she do: Get on the internet as soon as she arrived to the apartment and look for the other man obsessively. She didn't even thanked me.
What I did: I kept my part of the promise. For 1 month I let her be. No unnecessary contact and no talks about the relationship. I read every book I could put my hands on about WAWs, went to therapy, etc
What she did: Went deeper into the affair by internet and the phone. Made plans for OM visiting her. Followed the ill advice given by her BF and used every sentence Law of Attraction words to justify her actions.
In the end, she was just flipping a coin to make her decision but the coin had the same face in both sides: The affair.
Separated: March 1 * Affair discovered: 20-March * Exposed: 27 March * Def. separation: May 1st *
