Husband being hateful and cruel. Is this a stage?

[AJM]

CK, let me start by saying thank you. Let me add to that, it's ok to cry. In fact, I think you should from time to time. You will feel these emotions. It's ok. It's normal. Being tired is normal.

I will point out that I did not give up. I was told that it was over by both my pastor and my MC. Neither of them gave up easily either. I asked for their help for that reason. I fought. I continued to fight, but I have to at some point acknowledge that there is nothing left to fight for. I have done that and I'm moving on. I realize I can't go back. Therefore neither can she.
Whether or not they ever realize that they drove away something worth keeping is to be determined. They did not lose something. They pushed it away, stomped on it and burned it to the ground. So be it.

I do sometimes feel sorry for her. But then I realize she made her choices and this is what she wanted. Right mind or not, and that's debatable, this is what she wanted. She is who she wants to be. Same for your husband. He is who he wants to be and regardless of how he feels, it is his choice how he wants to handle things.

Don't be sad for very long. Don't be angry for very long. It only hurts you. You know that, but it's harder to live it. The pain and feelings will come for a very long time - let them. Ride the wave..Learn to swim...Learn to surf these waves.

Being the strong one? You are though. It's like being the older and responsible sibling - you were chosen to be that person. To think otherwise invites a slide into their world. That would be worse if you ask me.

Live well. Regardless of what he does. Live well.

Any further word on the job front?

AJ