What does this mean?- the WH's regrets?

[Babydoll]

Piano and NM,

yes. H was more excited and ready to start a family than I think I was. And H was so excited and happy, and dont know why the change. Now he is back to his old self (for the most part) and is still so excited about the baby and parenting together.


Its strange that no matter what, whether they wanted the PG more badly than us or if there is a OW or MLC or anything, they still had triggers that made them want to leave.


Gatsby, would love some cake!!! Yum!!!

[gatsby11]

Thanks, BD, you too! I'm about to go to your thread to see the latest!

[gatsby11]

So I got in to work today to see that WH sent me an email. It says:

Hi Gatsby,

I hope your first Mother’s Day is going well. I was going to send flowers, but I subscribed you to Cookie Magazine instead. If you already have a subscription, let me know and I’ll cancel it and find something else.

WH


So, that's nice. . . I just don't know if I should say thanks or not. So far I haven't said thanks for the baby gift or anything else. Yeah, I'll just say that it looks like a neat magazine, thanks.

[newmama]

Hi Gatsby, that is nice of your WH to give you a gift. Just wondering- why haven't you said thank you for anything?

I think my WH always regretted not giving me a gift or card last year on Mother's Day! He felt like an ass when he saw that everyone else acknowledged it! He said "I didn't think you wanted to talk to me or would accept it" but I still gave him a birthday present! (his bday is in May)

[gatsby11]

Hey! I'm supposed to be working, but alas.

I haven't said thank you because it seemed so contradictory to my true feeling. Especially when he sent the baby gifts, I was like "no, I'm not grateful! But these are things I need, so I'll keep them."

Now I guess I'm not as angry, so I am grateful for the little he is giving. I wrote back this:

Hi WH,

I’ve never heard of that magazine, but when I checked out the website, it looked like something I’d be glad to have. Thank you.



I felt like it reflected the truth, as well. So I'm getting better, not as angry. Yay!

[newmama]

I understand exactly what you mean about wanting to be true to what you are feeling! That makes sense.

Cookie magazine is a classy baby-kid magazine right? I was excited at first and thought it was about baking! lol!

[Babydoll]

Good response Gatsby!

in all of this craziness, i am working on one thing... being true to myself! And that is exactly what you did with your reply. You are not H's mother and not supposed to make him feel better by scraping off his knees and yet, you can't destroy the good in you by coming off as an angry person either. Easier said than done!

But be true to yourself... it will make you feel better, great for the baby, and could be a positive thing that H will notice in you.

We can not change for them and become bitter people! i refuse to!

[gatsby11]

Thanks for your responses. And now guess what? When I looked online at cookie magazine a little more (just a google search), I saw that it has folded! It is no longer accepting subscriptions! The online link is down. I'm guessing that he saw a current magazine and filled out the card and sent it in. So it will take him a little while to see that it's not actually going anymore. . . I'm not going to tell him. I'll just let him figure it out.

[Babydoll]

yes, dont tell him, let him do the work. wonder what he will do about it after he finds out!

[newmama]

Gatsby I miss you! Check in!