About the birthday thing...there is the higher road (i.e. just wish him Happy Birthday) there is the crafty road (i.e. wait a couple of days and tell him- like you FORGOT!!!) and then of course just skipping it.

Last year I did wish WH a happy birthday by buying him the Green Day cd but no card- we had a labor class together that day.He cried of course.

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004